In this 5 Part Blog Series (I make no promises) we will explore this reality. There are though many constants in the universe, and, all of them have purpose. In fact, no one person and experience is any more or less important than another.
Although many people clearly try cherry pick which ones have the most influence and make the largest impact on our perspective, all too often we fail to see how every experience shapes us. The truth is, we often wear many different hats throughout our lives as we find ourselves trying on different personalities until we find one(s) we like as we try create our own customized version of who we want to be.
And, this is especially true during those teen years of our life. Ironically, most of us don’t even realize that when we chose poorly and let the peer pressure of our world dictate which hats are appropriate, we end up hitting the well-known an infamous “Mid-life crisis” years that so many people fear facing when we get much older. It’s never to late to change though…
Yup, sometime we just don’t realize that we’ve been wearing the wrong hat until we’ve spent decades trying to stretch out that bad boy and make it fit… The truth is, there really is a child inside of each an everyone of us that just never gets what they need growing up. No matter how you slice it, these children will always eventually rise up and take control of our lives until his/her needs are truly met in life. P.S. And there really are a ton of Fu^&$ng kids in the world today who are really messing shit up for all of us… (Coming soon… “Don’t Be Such A F#$%@ng Child!”
It’s All bout Perspective
(Yes! I have a blog series dedicated to this reality)
The reality is there is a never ending list of personalities and perspective that make up the human condition and the fact of the matter is this is one of the most difficult seas to navigate, even for the most seasoned of observers of human nature.
Trying to pick up all the messages/lessons we can learn from all these 3 types of people, their experiences and the interactions they embark on is damn near impossible for us mortal men and women. The truth be told, these are the most dominate types of people in the world and quit often you will find that no one really is ever just one type of person. The bottom line is that you are either a Teacher, a Student or a Lesson at any given moment in your life. The funny part is many so called Teachers can be lessons, Students can be Teachers and the number of Lessons you come across and can learn from are mind boggling.
Life really does switches gears between all of these different realities faster than a car changes gears in a drag race, and most often without any notice. From watching how people treat and react to on another, to succumbing to this deep-seeded compulsion that encourages us to want to share with others what we learned or listen to their stories about life. Our quest to find those people that help us feel good about or assist us in making sense out of the madness that fills all our lives are almost always much appreciated. Other times, you’d just wish they’d shut the hell up! After all, many of us feel like the only sane people in this crazy world from time to time and dealing with more crazy when your have our plate full of it all really doesn’t make you yearn for more…
The Story Says It All
We really can’t always control what hat you will wear when it comes to determining which of these three people you’ll be. Quit often many of us find ourselves being unwilling pawns in the grand scheme of things as we share our lessons or stories with those who seem to find value in what we have to share. Whether we realize it or not, these little stories always seem to come up when we find the need to help us or others learn a lessons from our own experience(s) as we are always on a subconscious quest to try and make sense out of why some of these memories still linger in our minds eye.
I personally find myself often learning something when I’m try to be a know-it-all teacher and have all too often discovered the power of reciting these supposed lessons to the right person. As these experiences have often provided me with a much needed different perspective that helped me learn a lessons that eluded me all those times I taught it before. Of which always left me asking the question, “Who really was the teacher and the student?” Also, am I really that big of an asshole? hahaha
Many of us fail to accept the reality that quit often those strongest more painful memories that we failed to suppress as pieces of them always seem to linger often hold some of the greatest lessons we still need to learn… (For more about this topic, check out my coming blog post, “Why Memories Linger”) Yes, I love to plug my own works…lol Also, we really need to learn when and how to share some of the darker life experiences we’ve endured.
No one want’s Debbie Downer to come in and rain on their parade! And, if you can’t have a conversation without always bringing up such heavy shit all the time, you really need to find a support group, a psychologist or maybe write a book or something because no one wants to be around Debbie Downer all the time.
There are plenty of people out their that are willing to share such dark stories and you have a right to do so so you can heal. But tread very softly and learn to appreciate such people who are willing to hear you vent about your painful past kindly. Just try to remember to not start a conversation or friendship by bringing up this crap. In doing so usually either scares the crap out of people or has them looking for the exits before you’re half through your tale…
These things should never usually be shared unless your friendship has withstood the test of time.
But hey… sometimes we just can’t help ourselves now can we…lol