Whether we realize it or not each new personal interaction or experience shapes us and determine who we will become no matter how brief the encounter. Regardless of the fact that you make life long friends or missed an opportunity to even muster up the courage to say, “Hi!” Every moment of your life is effected by moments such as these.
Some people like meet new friends or form large groups of cohorts to go out and have fun night on the town with little regard for getting to know these people. Other fellow mouth breathers just like find just a few close friends and take a simple stroll to help them take their minds off of the daily stresses of life.
In reality many people never realize that these impulses to find like-minded individuals is driven by something much, much deeper than just having fun or finding someone to talk to. Here, we’ll explore the why…
Why Are We Drawn To Certain People
One of the constants I have discovered throughout life is that we are all drawn to certain types of people who seem to leave lasting impressions on us. For most of us its like an electrifying magnetic impulse that drives our desire to want to meet these people. Sadly, many of us never act on this impulse as we find ourselves admiring them from afar as we sometimes find ourselves fantasying about what it would be like to have them in our lives. All too often though, we let fear take over and rob us of the opportunity to do so as we often are often left wanting and wondering what it would’ve been like to engage in a short conversation or lasting adventure with these people. Even if just for a moment in time, we think, “Wouldn’t it be nice…?”
Every risk has its own reward as most of us never realize that no matter how brief the encounter or profound the experience can be, these interactions can us forever changes. Each time you build up the courage to at least try to act upon this impulse, you get stronger. Even if you end up making a complete ass of yourself. Every time to refuse to do so, you actually become a little weaker… but don’t sweat it though. We all have these hurdled to overcome in life! You just have to learn to have fun with your follies. After all, it is these memories that can in fact make the best stories for years to come. The bigger the crash and burn, the better the story…. ;-p
There really is a simple reason why most of us are driven interact and explore the lives of other people. Just like an animal that is driven by instinct to seek out others to survive, we too are driven by this same instincts. The main difference is, it’s for more than just for survival. In reality every human on the planet is subconsciously programed to look for people who can show us those tiny little pieces of ourselves we are missing and need to find in order to help us discover who we are and what our true purpose in life is.
It’s like the pieces of our soul are scattered across the billions of different personalities and possibilities in the world. Like a moths to a flame we are all drawn to those people who have certain characteristics they want or feel as if they need in order to become that much close to being more complete people — all in our individual subconscious quest to find out who we really are or need to be. After all, everyone is always looking to find way to closer to our true selves, now aren’t we.
The Proof Is In The People
All you need to do to prove this theory true is look at your own life. Take a peek at all those people you like to be around or surround yourself with. After all, human still subscribe to the pact mentality pretty much everywhere you go. The individuals or celebrities that inspire you to dream, the stories they share which inspire you to push the envelop in your own life. It is these people that encourage you to be yourself or find the strength live life without fear dictating every decision you make. These are the people we often find ourselves being drawn to. Why? Because in life the only thing you get in life by doing nothing, is nothing!
Sometimes all you have to do is just observe your circle of friend when someone knew comes into the mix. If you step back a little or learn to actually keep your trap shut long enough to let others do the talking at first. It won’t be long before you see that pretty much each new person that is interesting in joining your circle of friends pretty much has to take a group interview. Of which, is a fact that many people are quit familiar with. “Does this person fit into our diatribe?” “Do you like them?” “What do you hate about them?” Etc… As each person goes through the gauntlet of proposed comradely the one thing that many people fail to see it how these parts of these peoples seem to rub off on one another.
The most easily identifiable evidences is the fun new mannerisms or catch phrase people seem to assimilate during the introductory period of these courtships. As for the not so subtle mental ques, well that’s an entirely different blog post in and of itself…lol Let’s just say, sometimes one brief encounter can completely transform a persons identity. Sometimes the group notices immediately, sometimes they don’t…especially when the person changes the entire group dynamic. So the next time you go out to try and make new friends, look for that magic in the air and take a chance. You never know what your going to get, but at least you can walk away with a little something instead of ending up with nothing!