The Lighter Side Of Adam
Me, I was born and raised on Cape Cod, MA and moved to Newport, RI many years ago. Just like most people, I actually know what it’s like to struggle. I know what its like to worry about which bill will be paid this month, and which ones will have to wait. I’ve been with my wife for almost 20 years, waited more than 6 years to ask her to marry me and we had our first of two beautiful girls about 3 years ago. Suffice it to say, although when I was young I wanted everything to happen yesterday, I’ve learned the value of patience and taking your time in life. After all, life is more about the journey than the destination and what good is life if you can’t enjoying the ride! If you focus so much energy on the destination alone you often never realize that sometimes the reason you are on the journey to begin with is to find the the gem’s you trip over and discover along the way…
Being a very out going guy many people have always looked up to me because I come across as a fun going, confident individual who loves to make others laugh and have a good time. Now, I have no life as my family rules my world! Seriously, they overpower me, climb all over me and constantly make it impossible for me to meet any deadline….EVER! And, I love every minute of it as I enjoy my little love monsters more than life itself! They are my life…
The one thing that pretty much anyone who has ever known me throughout my life will say is that I’m very, very good at listening. That, and the fact that seem to pretty much be able to solve just about any problem that crosses my path. Within reason of course.
I love to create vision plans and have always had a passion for helping others make plans to help them achieve their goal whether personal or professional. Like most of us, it was always easier for me to help others than to help myself. Having also been known as the, “The BIG DREAMER” I enjoyed spending most of my young life failing to realize that although it’s good to dream big, if you can’t focus on the small steps needed to create the path to your big dream. That all you’ll ever do is dream… Yes, I am aware that I said I enjoyed failing and there’s a good reason for that which I will share with you soon enough.
I AM NO ANGEL THOUGH! I’ve bounced back and forth between both sinner and saint so many times throughout my life I’m surprised I don’t have two heads. Even though I’m a little rough around the edge I’ve become a more forgiving type of person who gas found peace through the teaching of many different philosophies and religions. Ever since I met my wife, I have found the value in being a good person far outweighs being an sinister sociopath. Even though being a bit crazy is fun, the price you pay on the end simply isn’t worth it!
The truth be told, the only people that should ever fear my dark side now are those that would callously do harm to the people I love and respect. What can I say, I still have a little bagged and a few anger issues, but have learned how to control my emotion and am getting stronger everyday. We have more power than many people believe and the ability to do amazing things and I just want to show other people how to seize the opportunities to become the hero’s we all dreamed we could be I guess.
I could probably make a fortune being a motivational speaker but I’m really not sure it would be the life for me. After all, I enjoy spending time with those I care about way too much and really need to finish my own healing before I try to do such things. This blog is one of the final steps I need to take to get a lot of shit off my chest as I see so much potential in the world. And, with so very few people in the way of us achieving a level a greatness that we are only used to hearing about in books or on a movie screen. I figured, what the heck! Besides, they will only benefit from having humanity achieving it anyways. They’re just too stupid to realize it yet. Big shocker their! Money really does make some people stupid, it’s just that their arrogance blinds them to reality. Hey, maybe I can help make it happen, maybe I can’t. The only way to know if you can really do anything in this world is to try right…
My Life Experience, Skills & Qualifications
Life has been preparing me for this blog since I was born. Ever since I was a child I’ve been interested in the world of public/private politics. It all started when my Grandmother, a local Counsel woman, use to take me to her political functions when I was around 8 years. For me, it was quit a treat as I have many interesting and fond memories of those years. My interest in human nature comes from spending my entire life in one of the most culturally diverse towns in the world, Provincetown, Massachusetts (P-Town). Being an International summer tourist trap P-Town has attracted people from all walks of life for decades which has allowed me to study human nature in one of most diverse and highly concentrated areas known to man. Growing up in a time when many people from completely different cultures and backgrounds frequently visited my home town to escape the rest of the world. Every summer would bring new people from all walk of life as they came to have fun and live a life free of the judgement that ruled the rest of the world.
In very little time many people who would’ve never been friends beyond our towns borders often became friends during the summer season. When I was growing up many of the locals didn’t care who you were or where you came from. We all just accepted each other and were always quick to open up and tell each other about where we came from, what we believed in as each summer season would change many lives of both the seasonal visitors and residents alike who welcomed them with open arms. Granted the times have changed and my old town is not as accepting as it once was, but the memories of how it use to be shaped my interest in human nature. Of which has become the driving for as to why I try to understand why we do what we do while trying to discover what drives us.
My young life was filled with chaos and some very dark energy, but I found a way to turn in around in high school. Ever since high school I’ve never been part of a losing political campaign and have been elected to top leadership positions over a dozen times for as long as I can remember. My passion for trying to understand human nature, religion, philosophy and politics has actually driven my interest in business and marketing forever. Yes, I am a very odd combination of different opposing viewpoints…sort of a walking contradiction if you will. Unfortunately I have learned more about the world’s behind U.S. Politics than most of the politicians who schooled me while I was young would’ve liked for me to remember considering what I do now. That, along with my firm grasp on all things philosophical and religious are not based on regurgitating ancient text or facts as they are mostly based life experience and the application of such things.
Having found ways to learn about life and why humanity does what it does I have found little need to remember specific quote’s/perspective from some of histories most noted philosophical or religious minds. Ironically, I discovered many of these people after I discovered many of their teachings. There is clearly a difference between knowing the path and walking the path. The one thing life has taught me is that although many people focus a great deal of energy knowing it, they clearly don’t understand the power of walking the lesson they try to teach. Granted, there are a lot of really cool ideas out there but if you take time to explore the worlds of those around you, you’d be surprised at how often you find yourself coming to the same conclusions as many of the brightest minds history have to offer. You just have to learn to look beyond yourself.
My first child was conceived when I was 15 and I was a regular part of her life. Having spent a great deal of time with her while I received top marks in both high school and college I was well balanced in spite of having faced a great deal of adversity as My Life Story will show. Even though I had pretty much experience and endured just about every sin know to mankind I’m learned to turn my pain around many times until now, no matter how bad my life has been. So much so that my wife calls my life story one of the greatest comebacks she ever heard. Having endured many trials by fire, they have helped shape me and made me a stronger person that I realized. After I overcame my first hurdle in high school I soon became was a very strong peer mentor/student leader because of it.
Having changed my life I went form being a drug addicted “F” student to becoming the class president of both my Jr. & Sr. class is impressive to say the least. I even became a varsity football player, captain of my wrestling team and held several other leadership roles/positions throughout my high school career until I graduated 3rd in my class, competed in several different local/regional business (DECA) competitions where I won many awards. All of which helped me earn a college scholarship as I was actively recruited to attend Johnson & Wales University (JWU) in Providence, RI. Ironically I went from a social outcast who could barely bake any friends only to realize that some of my greatest strengths were my natural charisma, quick wit and entertainingly animated speaking style that drew people to me many years later… did I mention how humble I was as well…hahaha
While attending JWU I had a true GPA of 3.65 while I pursued both a double major and a double minor. My goal was to get two Bachelors degrees, one in Marketing and another in Business Management with two Associates degrees, one in Entrepreneurship and another in Finance & Investment in around 5 years time. Unfortunately, I did not achieve my mark and fell short of some college degree’s by only a handful of class before I reached my goal. My Life Story will paint a clearer picture as to some of the reasons why I missed this mark.
Throughout college I was a strong student and business leader who excelled. From helping to establish, breakdown and rebuild the most racially and culturally diverse fraternity on campus, we helped raise tens of thousands of dollars for worthy causes while breaking campus membership recruiting records year after year. During those years held a job while going to school full-time and still seemed to have time to start the random small businesses enterprises along the way to make some extra cash.
I even founded my first for profit company before I graduated college and almost successfully establish my campuses first fraternity/sorority housing complex while somehow finding time to help one of my fraternity brothers start a local newspaper from concept to completion called, “The Federal Hill Gazette”. And, it is still successfully operating in the state of Rhode Island to this day. During those years I was well organized and successfully held the position of fraternity President for three consecutive terms. The key to holding it all together was probably my passion for researching and studying topics like Religion, Sociology, Psychology and Philosophy… yet I did all this while still having a very active social life and was able to party pretty hard…lol
Like many people I use to always find peace by escaping from my problems through my work, interests and hobbies which lead to me developing quit a gift for strategic planning that allowed me to see opportunity where others did not. Having spent many years figuring thing out on my own and under tight deadlines I eventually master the art of being able to spend little time researching pretty much any subject of interest while being able to learn enough about the subject matter well enough to hold my own. Even with the most seasoned of professionals in just about any field I was focusing on at the time. Of which came in quite handy as I found myself consulting various business for a little extra cash from time to time. Unfortunately, I also ended up working for some less than legitimate enterprises for a brief periods of time during some of those more self-destructive years of my life. Granted the money was great, but it wore on my soul so I retired early before my job(s) retired me early so to speak during those years.
Some time after college, after a small set-back, my girlfriend (and now wife) encouraged me to do some soul searching as I took on some small time paid and pro bono consulting gigs to get by will I got my life together. I even took on some meager retail management jobs during which helped me build on my business acumen while I tried to start a few businesses of my own. It all gave me the time I needed to reflect on life and help me figure out why I kept getting in my own way and all that jazz. Since then I’ve started over a dozen businesses/companies in both the for profit and non-profit sector. Few did well while many others tanked, as I seemed to learn more from my failures than my successes.
Having a few inventions under my belt as well I have found myself working on a very diverse range of business related projects during my life. From starting a non-profit organizations that tried to put computers and distance learning tools into the hands of child across America, to working of grant proposals, retail operations/marketing projects. I’ve consulted night clubs, political campaigns, developed a reality show project and worked on many different projects with both great success and failure.
At some point in my life I realized that I had some unresolved past issues that were holding me back from achieving many of my goals and becoming the person all my friends envisioned me being most of my life. Apparently not resolving such things can created these little glitches in ones psyche that cause them to be a bit self-destructive from time to time… Again, Big Shocker their, huh!
So, I spent over a decade in regressive therapy while writing and studying my own past and human nature while exploring some of the teachings of many different religion as I dug deep into my own past. You know, the whole, “Why do we always seem to find ourselves dreaming or coming so close to achieving this greatness we envision ourselves being, then repeatedly self-destructing or have it slip away every time we got so close” problem.
Eventually, I found myself being drawn to the teachings of Christianity more than most and even almost became a practicing minister. But, I soon found my problem were more with most organized religions than the lessons they taught so I choose a slightly different path. Granted I love and respect almost all religious beliefs and have a great deal of faith, I walk a different path than traditional religion.
Let’s just say my perspective is very unique and pisses a lot of overly religious types off. Apparently many so called peaceful religious people can get very angry…lol All in all, I bring a lot to the table but am always looking to add more if you are willing to share. I love to hear other people stories and never thought I was really better than anyone. We are all just different people with unique gifts. Some of us are strong where others are weak and we all have something to both teach and learn. Anyone who says otherwise is simply either an asshole or a lost child lashing out. In reality, these two really are the same though… we just need to accept the reality that no one really has all the answers and were all pretty much just winging it!
The truth be told, if you spend any decent amount of time with a child and young adult, you can learn more about why us full grown adults act like them than more often than you could ever imagine… they really are the key to everything we’ve ever needed to learn about life and how to live it! And, I look forward to sharing such things with you throughout my many many blog post I can wait to write…
Obviously there is a lot more I can tell you to add to my bio, but I think you get the point… I’M AWESOME DRAPED IN AWESOME SAUCE AND GOT MAD SKILLS…lol
(That’s a joke for those that are humor impaired)