Kids … The final frontier. The universes perfect reality check for all people who foolishly believe that we are here to help children learn. Especially when their true purpose is life is really much, much more…
The world is filled with way to many people who believe they have what it takes to raise and teach a child what they need to become happy adults. When, in reality, they are here to teach us what we need to know in order to be better people. Every parent really needs to step back, take a deep breath and accept the fact that children are here to teach us more about ourselves, who we are and how we must treat one another in order to evolve into healthy, happy people capable of building a better world for all. That is if you can stop yourself from losing your sh*t long enough to find a few seconds of sanity to do such things…lol
It’s no mystery that raising kids is the most complicated, frustrating, stressful, thankless and difficult tasks any human being can endure. I’ve worked 100-hour weeks, faced imposing obstacles in life and personally endured hell well beyond which many people could every possibly image. Yes, I know that’s a bold statement because I couldn’t possibly know what other people have endured…but what the hell. I’m entitled seeing as I survived raising a teenager…hahaha.
We All Need A Break From Reality
With that being said, I completely understand why most parents choose to drop their kids in day care, hire nannies, seek out support groups such as friends and/or family to help then take a break to relieve some of that stress. Looking to find a full time job as soon as humanly possible after having a child is a very appealing proposition.
Many people who don’t have kids sometimes can’t understand why so many people would even chose to work full time when a job barely earns them an extra $100 a week after daycare expenses. But the reality is, if you are actually brave(stupid) enough to be a stay at home parent who doesn’t rely on such support groups and actually chooses to spend a great deal of time with parenting kids. You will quickly learn the reason why these people look to dart and run to the hills or hide out in a job! After all, it’s the one of the toughest jobs most thankless jobs you can ever have and the work NEVER STOPS!!!
The tragic irony is, what many people don’t realize. Most undoubtedly because they are so focused on sheer madness of all the work involved in being a stay at home parent is that if you can benefit a great deal if really focus on what children. By simply observing how they act and learn you’d be quite surprised to realize that their behaviors and how they approach things tells you a great deal about humanity and yourself as well.
Children are in fact little teaching machines! From helping you realize that you can’t get two frustrated when things don’t go the way you want. To accepting the fact that if you, as an adult, had the persistence of a child you’d pretty much achieve all you life ambitions before you kids graduated Elementary School…lol The list is endless as to what observing a child can teach! And, I will touch on many of them throughout this blog series…
Don’t Be So Surprised!
I’ve learned a lot more from watching how my own kids learn and act than they ever could from my words and lessons alone.
What most parents don’t realize is that our actions are quite often the teachers that have the most impact in their lives. Of which is often the exact reason why our words can cause them a great deal of confusion when they get older. Very few parent realize that they have a tenancy to say things like, practice your patience as they flip out quit often themselves or wonder why their child always screams when they to often raise their voice. It is these obvious contradictions that we as parents quit often our children that eventually leads to them rebelling against us as we get older. The more often your actions contradict your reality throughout the years, the greater the rebellion.
After all, once they get old enough to put together the pieces of this reality (usually in their early teens) they simply just stop believing what you’ve got to say! Quite often it also happens at a subconscious level and the children don’t even realize the exact reason why they are rebelling. Well, its either that or you are such a complete nut case as a part contradict yourself so often they can’t even bother to keep track…hahaha Sadly though, this happens at an even younger age nowadays…
So think about that next time you write you kids off as being “just another rebellious child” it may be you’ve been sending mixed singles since they were born and you just didn’t realize it!
Your children are the best parts of both you and your spouse. So why not take advantage of that fact a re-learn how to the best version of yourself in the process.
Ask them questions when they are old enough to understand and answer them. Help them overcome their frustrations and fears no matter how uncomfortable they may make you and learn to observe how they act and overreact as often as possible.
Who knows, maybe you can learn how to become the person you’ve always dreamed of being while serving as inspiration for your own kids to do the same. If every parent realized and did this, the world would quickly become a much better place because of it! You and your children deserve it and the world desperately needs more people to wake up and smell the coffee!
You know, help you and your kid to become the change you want to see in the world…
After all, you never know if you child will be the one to do so.
So why not give them a chance to find that genius that lays dormant in us all!